The shakes, or perhaps tremors? I have not been diagnosed, but I think that these are essential tremors - origin apparently unknown but liable to be one-sided. Balance issues do look double-sided but I donât know whether it is worth categorising because balance issues are balance issues. Not nice though, and I can well-understand that they can cause all sorts of personal issues. Very recently the three finger trick (thumb and last two fingers coming together and quickly too) is now working and fairly well-established, but it is yet to translate into improving the balance or the tremors. I am still like a bee near a flower in a high wind for many things! You can imagine it.
I will also say that I visited Christchurch in Dorset in early summer during their food festival. Loads of people milling around. Very difficult to negotiate the bonkers density. I was better, though not perfect, some four weeks later, although with fewer people. Yesterday was the carol service at St Johns Keynsham, and I am in the choir. I did the recessional for the first time since the stroke; this involves walking slowly up the aisle with others at the end of the service, and at 7.30 this is past when neurofatigue kicks in of an evening. We had almost 400 there. It was quite a risk, but I decided at the last moment that I was ready to give it a go. I almost lost it once (i.e. falling over), but it worked out in the end. âThat which doesnât break you makes you strongâ is something that I have lived with since the stroke. Thus I take measured risks occasionally, and this one paid off.
I am very glad that you took the risk of being with family for this difficult situation. Best thing is to explain that this is a natural consequence of the stroke, that you are bravely outside of your comfort zone, that you should be supported and encouraged, and that are you are being courageous by being there. Full honesty. The next one will be better.